Day 10- A deeper vision of yourself; Weeding out frivolous friends

Day 10- Weeding out frivolous friends

Since we are taking a deeper look at ourselves, what better way to see how we are than looking at our friends. My mother always used to tell me that if you can count on one hand the amount of real friends you have... you're doing good.  I always thought that was absurd. Surely people have more friends than that. I do. At least I thought I did. As I have continued down this winding journey of life I have realized that the older you get the more quickly that changes. People come and go much like the seasons. They change your surroundings for a bit, and then they are off to the next bigger and better thing. I have especially taken note of this in female friends. It has been painfully obvious to me that certain girls in my life have been there only when they have something to gain from me. In return when you are a good friend, you are there through all of these depthless and shallow shenanigans. I have had a good amount of time to think about the people in my life who have come and gone. With that being said I know exactly why the ones who are still in my life are there for the long haul. I think the Lord gives us options when it comes to friends. Sometimes we may lead a person who is in a bad place to Christ, but more often than not when you bring a person who is a negative influence into your life chances are they will bring you down with them. As women of Christ we need to surround ourselves with positive, uplifting, and encouraging people. They are the ones who rejoice with you when you are thriving in life, cry with you when you are sad, laugh with you even when no one else is, take up for you when you are not around and most importantly they are there no matter what. God wants us to have rock solid friendships with the right kind of people. Like the kind of people who have seen you at your worst and celebrated with you at your best. So I have decided to tweak my mother’s theory a bit. If you make it through life with one good friend, you have won. You have gained a victory that most would kill for, but the key is... to attain a friend like that, you must first be one.

The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense. -Proverbs 27:9

Lord, Today give us wisdom about our friends. Help us determine the difference between someone who completes us and someone who depletes us. Show us how to always keep others needs before our own and help us to always treat others how we want to be treated in return. Show us how walking in your light has everything to do with being a better person and friend.